Month two was all about patience and trust. After a rough start, breastfeeding finally worked out, and I learned firsthand how wrong some of the “common advice” passed between mothers can be.
This month, I want to talk about two myths: that some women don’t have milk, and that all babies have colic.
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🍼 Myth #1: “Some women don’t have milk” or “some babies are too lazy to nurse”
The second month started off successfully, because it was only at three weeks that R finally began to nurse properly. By around one month, we were able to stop using formula completely, as my milk supply became sufficient after about a week of regular nursing.
Why am I saying this? Because during this month, I managed to destroy two big myths:
– that some women simply “don’t have milk,”
– and that some babies “don’t like to nurse” or “are too lazy to do it.”
R was supposed to be born by scheduled C-section on December 23, but he decided to arrive on the 17th. His full 40 weeks would have actually been completed on January 6. From birth, he didn’t want to latch at all. Since I had a C-section, my milk came in only after about 48–62 hours — which is completely normal.
So: “I had a C-section and didn’t get milk” — false!
If your milk doesn’t appear on day two or three, don’t take the pill that stops lactation — it will come!
Some babies are born earlier, smaller, and simply don’t have the strength to nurse effectively. And for first-time mothers, the milk ducts are often partially blocked and only open properly with massage — not just through suction. So it’s almost impossible for a small, early baby to manage that on their own.
Another myth: “I got engorged because my baby didn’t nurse.”
No — you got engorged because your ducts didn’t open, the milk couldn’t flow out, and pressure built up. The solution? A breast pump or massage, that’s it!
In my case, a nurse helped me in the hospital on the third day after surgery, when my breasts turned to stone. R couldn’t empty them, and I couldn’t even touch them. What did I do? Pumping and cold compresses.
But if the baby doesn’t nurse, milk supply drops within about a week — it’s simple supply and demand. When I realized that after one week he still wasn’t latching and I barely had anything to pump, panic hit — and the research began!
I booked an online session with a lactation consultant — wonderful woman! I hope she’ll write a piece for the blog too. After one hour of talking and sharing some photos, it became clear: R needed physiotherapy. Because of his position in the womb, he had a mild neck restriction and was opening his mouth asymmetrically.
He didn’t have a tongue-tie (frenulum), which was a huge relief!
And here’s an important parenthesis: if your baby does have a tongue-tie, it should be released within the first two weeks of life. If you wait longer, successful breastfeeding becomes very hard to recover.
Let’s be clear — there are no “lazy babies.”
There are only babies who can’t nurse efficiently. Those with tongue-tie can’t create enough suction, so they don’t get enough milk. Of course, they seem to “prefer” the bottle — but not out of laziness. It’s simply survival instinct: they choose the way that actually feeds them.
The frenectomy is done under local anesthesia (spray or gel), it doesn’t hurt, doesn’t bleed, and doesn’t grow back. Don’t postpone it!
Back to R: we did one full month of physiotherapy, and he started latching and nursing better and better.
I had the consultation just one day before he finally started nursing on his own — on January 6, the day he would have completed 40 weeks. Nature really has its timing.
Physiotherapy helped him hold his head, coordinate his movements, and feed efficiently.
So yes: every woman can produce milk. Every baby prefers the breast. There are no lazy babies — only lack of information or patience.
If anyone’s lazy, it’s us, when we don’t take time to learn.
Looking back, I probably should have given him one formula bottle at night before bed — but I didn’t, and I regretted it later (more on that in a few months).
Takeaway:
If you’re struggling with breastfeeding, remember this: it takes time, not perfection. Ask for help early, find a good consultant, and trust your body — it knows what to do.
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🌙 Myth #2: “Colic” – what it is and what it’s not
Well… colic doesn’t really exist the way most people think. 😅
True colic can appear in babies who are exclusively formula-fed, or those who received antibiotics after birth, or those with an immature digestive system.
But if it’s true colic, it doesn’t happen only in the evening! Colic doesn’t follow a schedule. It doesn’t suddenly appear “after 6 p.m.” — if a baby has colic, it hurts at noon too.
So what is colic, actually?
After feeding, some babies swallow too much air that isn’t properly released, or they don’t have enough enzymes to digest the powder in formula milk. The result: pain a few minutes after eating. Simple and logical.
And yes, colic can be treated!
You can add a few drops of digestive enzymes directly into the bottle and a few drops of simethicone after feeding — and that’s it.
Now, let’s get back to that evening crying session that everyone blames on colic.
Around six weeks old, R would cry between 6–9 p.m. — without any real signs of tummy pain.
Everyone said, “It’s colic!”
But I noticed something: when his tummy did hurt (and yes, that happens to all babies occasionally), he curled up and turned red. In the evenings, though, he didn’t do that. The crying was different.
So I started reading, and found tons of articles about the witching hour, colic, and other nonsense. Eventually, I spoke with a sleep consultant — and I hope she’ll also write something for the blog.
She confirmed what I already suspected: R didn’t have colic — he was overtired.
Here’s what was happening: around 5 p.m., my husband came home. After spending all day alone with R, I’d go downstairs, turn on all the lights, warm up dinner, talk, make noise — basically, chaos. For a baby already tired and overstimulated, that was a nightmare.
Why do I say “tired and overstimulated”? Because babies have mirror neurons — they constantly absorb our emotions. And when you’re a new mom, you have plenty of emotions: exhaustion, doubt, hunger, sometimes frustration. They feel all of that.
Babies don’t yet have a mature emotional regulation system. When they’re tired, they can’t just “relax.” They’re like an overheated processor that can’t be unplugged.
After a week of two-hour evening meltdowns, I followed the consultant’s advice:
after 5 p.m. — dim lights, no music, no talking, just a bit of white noise and calm.
And guess what? By the second day, he was “cured” of colic. 😄
Takeaway:
Evening crying isn’t always colic — often it’s overstimulation and fatigue. Turn down the lights, lower your voice, breathe slowly, and connect. Calm is contagious.
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💫 Closing Thoughts
Looking back, I realize how much the right information and the right kind of support can change everything.
Month two was a lesson in trust, observation, and patience — but also a reminder that the mother learns just as much as the baby does.
See you in month three, when the fun continues with… reflux! 😅
